I had read about HSP’s not that long ago and I thought that I really fit the bill, but recently I
started looking more into it and found this definition which I promptly sent to my husband who had a major “AH HAA” moment. It was like this passage was written directly about me,
“With your hyperawareness come many strengths. HSPs consider matters deeply and often
have unique and interesting perspectives. You are intuitive and tend to be an emotional leader (the first to be outraged by injustice, for example). But because you're so tuned in to the subtleties of your surroundings, you can feel overwhelmed in chaotic environments. You're not necessarily shy or introverted; you simply think more clearly when you're not overstimulated—which is why
navigating unfamiliar places and meeting many new people at once (think cocktail parties or client presentations) can be especially taxing. To avoid shutting down in such situations, it can help to prepare in advance. Rehearse what you want to say. Brainstorm conversation starters. Bring a friend for social support. Take frequent breaks. It's crucial for HSPs to build downtime into
their lives. Make rest a priority at least one day a week. Take time off every three months. Learn to meditate. And try not to overextend yourself when it comes to family and friends. Thanks to their affinity for reading other people's emotions, HSPs frequently dole out more support than they can afford to give. To handle your physical sensitivities, choose decaf tea, coffee, and sodas. And
carry a snack with you (preferably some form of protein) so you never get too hungry. Finally, keep in mind that HSPs tend to change careers several times. More than most people, you crave meaningful work—but a job that's too stressful won't make you happy. It may take several tries to find the right
While I can see the strengths HSP’s possess I feel like more often in my case it is a burden, a burden to myself and a burden to my immediate family. I feel this way mostly because I have a major struggle with keeping my stress within. For most people, releasing stress is a good thing, but when you have two young people watching your every move, releasing stress can have major effects (I
can’t say I release my stress in the most healthiest of ways) on those around you. I call it a burden because I find myself getting nervous when dealing with new situations and new people. I find that I will struggle at work because part of my job is unpredictable, so I often exist in heightened anxiety there. Sweaty palms, nervous stomach and a review over and over of what I could face forces me
to utilize lots of energy and I often feel exhausted after a day’s work.
When I was single, I had a lot of downtime to re-energize or to just be relaxed but now I hardly have any time (unless you consider the car ride to work and back as relaxation). I do believe some down time would make me feel less cumbersome. Then again, the fact that I require more than the average person annoys me. I wish I could just go – go – go without issue.
I always overextend myself with family and friends and have always found it impossible to say no in any situation. Being HSP doesn’t help in that area at all. Another area it interferes with is decision making. I find myself being wracked with fear and pressure when making decisions and often don’t trust my decision making at all. This has been a struggle for me for a long time.
Somecommonalities among HSP’s are “depression, anxiety, easily cries.” “They’re probably used to hearing ‘don’t take things so personally’ and ‘why are you so sensitive?’”
Now, I don’t want to act as though being HSP is entirely negative (though at times, I really feel that way), there are some traits that definitely have its positives. For example, HSP’s really thrive in the area of compassion because they really can put themselves in someone else’s shoes. This area helps with parenting as well because they can really relate to their children. Read this article to find more info “It’s Good to be Sensitve- 25 Wonderful Aspects of Highly Sensitive People.”
HSP’s can be highly creative because they think outside the box. “They become artists, teachers and (AHEM!) writers.” HSP’s are very much into the details because they lit
erally see everything around them, in their environment and with the people they are interacting with. I always find that I have a huge strength in my attention to detail. It’s something I definitely pride myself on. Here are some other characteristics of HSP .
I would love to be someone unaffected by comments, someone who lets things roll off their backs, someone truly intrinsically laid back, but I am just not built that way. I literally feel everything, deeply and all encompassing. I do think there is a hereditary portion of this as well, my father was very HSP too, though he never knew it. I remember my grandmother stating to me once that he simply “felt things too deeply.” I often think this is the reason he had so many addictions. Feelings just overwhelmed him and he didn’t know how to handle or channel them.
I often find that being HSP inhibits me from having true and open discussions with the people in my life. I am often so easily hurt by the words that I find trouble in getting beyond that. If there was one thing I could change it would certainly be that.
So you decide, being HSP –helpful or hindrance?
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