talking about, terrible two’s aren’t so bad and they should be called “occasionally bad but not so terrible two’s.” I would think ok this, this I can handle!
Then my child turned 3 and as if a switch was turned on magically on the eve of his birthday things changed very dramatically. He wouldn’t take no for an answer and some interactions over simple things like he sippy cup dripping would send him into a full-fledged frenzy, screaming and carrying on as if he was having some kind of exorcism. Then came the hitting, kicking, and biting, oh what fun. Suddenly he was spending more time in time out than on the potty. I couldn’t believe my sweet, innocent, happy toddler was now screaming to the point of drooling and foaming at the mouth. It was quite shocking.
Now of course I can’t say that these changes came unsolicited. Right around the time he turned 3 we brought home a new baby and he started preschool part time, so he did have every reason to feel those changes and act out, but here we are almost 10 months later, and he is still misbehaving just
like prior only the physical aspects of his meltdowns have seemed to become more aggressive. I am wondering what is healthy pushing boundaries and when does it cross the line and needs some medical attention? (I’ll have to do some googling on that front, but you get the idea).
When he is really acting up on us, my husband and I just throw each other glances and the weary is all over our faces. We sometimes feel like hostages to this behavior and we are the only two in the world that truly understand. I want to create a peaceful environment for all of us, but right now it just seems impossible. I am doing my best to minimize those freak outs by just keeping him busy, busy, busy, but when you are trying to get the kids out the door or ready for bed, you are just praying that you all get out alive and on time (never happens, BTW). For example, we spent all day at my parent’s
house yesterday and he was an angel. We were home for approximately 15 minutes and he was already screaming and carrying on. I couldn’t believe it. Yes I am content that he is comfortable expressing every emotion, but some days you just want things to move along without scraps, scars or emotional bruises.
I pray that just as magically as terrible threes were upon us, wonderful fours will be the shine to my sun and the bow to my rain, but we shall see. I have to keep moving and maneuvering with what is going on at this very moment and that is trying to keep my 3 year old happy, and allowing him to have
those moments to express frustration, anger, sadness, but to express it in a healthy way. I think this takes time and learning and experience on my part.
Any other mothers out there going through the same experience? Any advice you could pass along? I could certainly use it!