Recently though I’ve had two days that I expected would go on their merry way and when they didn’t, the letdown burned like never before. At some point, I had allowed expectations to creep back up again, and I was heartbroken when things flat out failed. I recognized that this day wasn’t going as planned and instead of readjusting my expectations, I just got angrier and angrier. That day specifically was a total flop and quite literally I had no one to blame but myself. By the time I realized this though the day had come and gone down in flames. It was too late to turn it all around. Then I found myself pissed that I didn’t make it better. As a parent, I know if I have a rough morning with the kids, I have an opportunity to turn it all around and have a great afternoon, but this time, my rough morning was created solely by me and instead of turning it all around, it turned the anger within and allowed it to grow to full beast potential.
I know it seems like it’s not a big deal, and most would chalk it up to a rough day, but it was more than that. The rough day was precipitated by the expectation I had that it should be a perfect and easy day. Waking up every morning, rubbing the sleep from eyes, I think, who knows what the day with bring. I try to have a positive outlook, but I have realized it’s important to not put so much weight on having a ‘perfect day,’ because perfect days do not exist. Perfect lives do not exist. Perfect spouses, perfect parents, perfect children or friends. The acceptance that each are who they are is a tough one, but I have realized the sooner you do it the sooner you are free from your own
expectations which is truly the walls that separate us as friends or loved ones.
I don’t want to preach on this because I am certainly far from an expert on these types of situations. I just thought it would be beneficial to share why I believe that expectations are the true mother-er’s of personal relationships and idealized situations. Expectations are the shadiest of all the shades in the forest because they are sneaky, if we don’t look deep within we might miss what they have created and destroyed for us. Expectations are those friends in the group that you want to trust but always screws you in the long run, expectations are the boyfriends (or girlfriends) that tell you they love
you and then text their ex’s behind your back. Expectations lead you down one “long and winding road” when they should lead you straight to the heart. It’s always up to ourselves to set our expectations straight, it may take time and hard work, but we owe it to ourselves to do it.