When we are little, if we are blessed and fortunate, we are
showered with love and “I love you’s” from our parents and extended family. It’s our first experience hearing those 3 powerful words and in that world, we don’t really know what it means, we just somewhat understand that it means that we as little people pretty much rock everyone’s world. Hearing those words is the foundation to us as humans to start to understand what love is, and what it
feels like. This is where the power of the “I love you” starts to take shape. As a parent now going through this stage, I am realizing how important it is to say those words to my sons. I say it when it comes to mind, when they are getting ready for bedtime and when I am leaving them for any short period of time. I can’t say it enough. It only mildly describes how I feel about them. I
feel like children really can’t hear it enough.
Then as we start to grow and develop we begin relationships with
friends and potential first crushes. Depending on how old we are we may start to
date and form the first relationship in our lives. This is the relationship of
mushy, young love. If we are young in this stage, we aren’t afraid to express it
in our own little ways. Love notes with hearts, holding hands, bashful smiles,
and happy thoughts about each other. It’s easy love because we don’t have to
worry or think about anything serious involving this relationship. We don’t
worry about if our friends or parents will accept it, we don’t worry about
religion, and we don’t worry about rent, bills, or children. It’s cutesy love.
It’s easy love. Depending on the age this relationship forms it’s the first time
we may hear “I love you” from that other person. This is like rocket ship to the
moon love. Hearing that first “I love you” is monumental. It’s essentially what
drives the relationship. Everyone at any age can remember the time and place you
first heard those words (well, at least most chicks remember this moment). It
feels life changing and like a huge accomplishment. That first official “I love
you” whether serious or sweet changes you no matter who you are.
Hearing “I love you” in a marriage sometimes is the single expression each shares. Often there aren’t a lot of opportunities in marriage and kids to spend time to describe every emotion that makes up I love you explicitly, so it’s so important to say these words. It’s a chance to check back
in with your loved one, to say “hey, I am still thinking about you.” Saying “I love you” can also be very difficult when you are in a relationship, but I find that it’s in that moment when you need to hear it or say it the most. It changes space and energy.
So today is a day we celebrate our most important love, our love with our partners. We celebrate with chocolate, flowers and sweet cards. We celebrate with dressing up and dinners. But the most important way we should celebrate is with “I love you.”
That concludes my mushiness for the day.
Happy Valentine’s Day!